Pride Goeth Before The Divorce Papers.

DOOOODS! Knock it off.

Seriously, if you are wrong, just say so.

I know I know, no one likes to be wrong.

I also suspect that no one likes to be divorced either.

I mean, that is no picnic - losing your family, money, business, etc.

Instead of watching it all go bye bye, what if you set the stage for open, frank, and honest discussion from the very beginning.

Or at least START NOW!

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Relationships are hard enough, without you getting in your own way.

If you are holding onto pride and not saying what needs to be said, it’s kinda like pouring salt on an open wound.

Especially when all you have to do is apologize and course correct immediately.

So what if he does it all the time.

So what if you have told her a million times.

So what if saying “I’m sorry” hurts you physically and gives ya hives.

If you have done something that hurts your partner, nobody wins.

If you think you are going to look weak, by proclaiming that you are wrong about something, just think how strong you will look when you're single, microwaving shitty lasagna tv dinners and drinking Jim Beam straight outta the bottle in your underwear. On a Tuesday.

But at least you didn’t back down. Ever. Whether you were right or wrong.

You have your pride. Your dignity. I mean, the t-shirt you are wearing while eating that TV dinner does say “Eye of the Tiger” after all.

Stop getting tripped up by your own stubborn streak.

Have an open discussion with your partner early on, or right now!

Agree to be able to say “I was wrong” or “I apologize” or whatever fits for you.

Also agree that the other side will not taunt or say “I told you so” or anything like that.

They will promise to be open and grateful that you were strong enough to share.

If you can both make the effort, you can open up a space for real dialogue now and spare you both a ton of pain down the road.